31 Day Reset Day Four: Identify Your Values

Okay I have to list my top 10 values.  OMG....that was soo hard.   I had to make sure I wrote down MY top ten values....not what other people want my top ten to be.  It is soo interesting how many times I have to separate what I want for myself and what other people want for me. 

1. Godly Living
2. Healthy Living
3. Integrity
4. Love
5. Balance
6. Discipline / Order
7. Wisdom
8. Truth
9. Generosity
10. Beauty  (At first I thought this choice was vain but I want my outsides to show how beautiful I am on the inside)

 

31 Day Reset.....

I have to give respect to the owner of the challenge that I'm participating in. 

Thanks soo much!!!





from rosetta thurman's happy black woman




on web, facebook, youtube, also @rosettathurman) 

for the opportunity to participate in 

the april 2012 31 days to reset your life challenge.



31 Day Reset Day 3: Write a Love Letter to Your Future Self

Dear Future Crystal Lynn,

I just want to congratulate you on the progress that you made so far on the 31 Day Reset.  I am proud that you finished something that you started. You have made many excuses through the years.    You are applying your personal mantra in your life. You are accomplishing something that you haven’t done before; you had pushed beyond your comfort zone, trusted in your instincts, practiced and believed in yourself.  I am very proud that you have stepped out on faith to improve your life.

You are feeling really content with your life.  Your lifestyle represents the person that you are.  You feel comfortable at the places that you go to for amusement.  You make it a mission not to have a bad day because you are grateful to be in the land of the living.  You made an effort to better yourself my improving your resume and actively looking for another job.   Also you registered for school this summer.  

Crystal, you finally are following your budget. Utilizing online banking and using your calendar to visually see what is due is really working out for you.  You have made your extra money to purchase the items you want.  I appreciate your efforts to become healthy.  You made your extra room an exercise room and you actively use it and your gym membership to Powerhouse.  You are making healthy eating choices, focusing on a vegetarian diet.  You finally are letting those slurpees, mounds, almond joys, frooties, and Famous Dave’s bbq ribs go.  Oh….also the orange sherbet, nerds, chicken, and Chinese food. LOL

Crystal, at last you are putting yourself first.  You are recognizing your role as a daughter, sister, and friend.  YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!  Thank God that you have great family, friends, and church family.  You are never alone in this world. Remember those times you use to be sad about not having a boyfriend, husband, or children.  Those worrying days are in the past.  Don’t forget the scripture “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4)”.

Okay Crystal, please continue to better yourself.  You deserve it.

Love You Always,

Crystal Lynn

 

31 Day Reset Day 2: Take an Honest Assessment of Your Life

Today I will have to take an honest assessment of seven specific areas in my life.

Lifestyle

Likes: I love that I am in the land the living.  I accomplished what most people haven’t and is grateful for my experiences.

Dislikes: I hate the fact that I still want to have the same social life that I had when I was 21.  “Crystal, you need to grow up”.

Education

Likes: As much as I talk about getting a refund for my degrees (BS and MS in Computer Information Systems); I’m really thanking God for them.  During my educational journey I was faced with many obstacles that I have overcome…especially being young, black, and not having any professional work experiences.  Now I want to go back to school to get a certificate to enhance my degree.

Dislikes:  I dislike the fact that I didn’t go with my first degree option.  I would have been an computer engineer. I tried to take the easy route….

Finances

Likes: I am content with my salary but know I can make soo much more.

Dislikes: I have bad money management skills.  I need to establish a budget and actually go through with it.

Health

Likes: I am making my health become an asset of mine.  I’m on the right direction to having a healthy lifestyle and becoming fit.

Dislikes: I hate that I was so comfortable with having an unhealthy lifestyle through the years.

Family

Likes:  I love that I can go to them whenever I need them.  We genuinely have love for each other.

Dislikes: I need to stick to my role….’I can’t be a parent to my mother and siblings’ and/or “a wife to my father”.

Relationships

Likes:  I have a great circle of friends that love me for me; I consider most of them as my siblings. I am starting to accept my situation of having a dormant love life. Now I am focusing on loving and feeling comfortable with myself.

Dislikes:  I wish that I can equally spread my love around to my friends.   I can spread myself thin sometimes.  I would really want a significant other now….like right now….but I promise that I am getting tested for patience and self discipline.  It is pretty rough.

31 Day Reset: Day 1

While browsing the blogosphere I found a great blog called Happy Black Woman.  The website is amazing!  On the site I came upon a program that I want to incorporate in my life.  It is called the 31 Day Reset.  This site is dedicated to my 31 day reset of my life.


Today's Three-Part Exercise:

Choose Your Reset Notebook:  The title of my notebook states: Think You Can Do It: Success. Also I am writing daily on this blog.

Choose a Personal Mantra:  "To accomplish something you have never done before, you have to push beyond your comfort zone, trust your instincts, practice and believe in yourself"

Choose a Theme Song:  Strength, Courage, and Wisdom by India Arie